This is Mary, a sixty-something year old man who took it upon himself to join an explicitly woman-only feminist Facebook group. Admittedly, the group is open to anyone who claims to experience oppression based on the fact that they identify as a woman (whatever that means) but a man Mary’s age should know that doesn’t mean him. Here is Mary’s introductory post in the group:
So, for 39 years, Mary slept in the same bed with the same woman. He fucked her so many times, she became pregnant with thirteen children. Mary’s ex wife went through the agony of losing a child after he or she had been born living. Interestingly, Mary neglected to mention his deceased child in his initial introductory post. I bet his wife knows she has 13 children, not twelve. For thirty of those 39 years, Mary was the family’s patriarch in a patriarchal religious sect. He wasn’t allowed to divorce his wife, or use contraception, so he just kept on fucking her and impregnating her.
Finally Mary’s wife finds women’s clothing in Mary’s car. Presumably her first thought would be that he was having an affair. When Mary announces that he is a woman, his wife tells him to leave. He chooses a screeching fake womanvoice and wearing a bad wig over the woman who has allowed him to put his penis inside her and use her body to beget thirteen children. Mary’s family are in such a state of shock, they no longer speak to him.
Fast forward to December 2013 and Mary is coming into a Facebook group made up of predominantly young women to tell them that he likes it when women admire his body. He likes it when they think he’s birthed 12 children and kept a svelte physique. It gives him the lulz.
And what happens when actual women voice horror and disgust at his flagrant disregard for this woman and, by extension, all women? We’re told off. We’re called disgusting. We’re called bigots. We’re told we have female privilege. We’re told we ought to have more sensitivity about this poor man’s feelings because not respecting his preferred gender pronouns might make him want to kill himself. We’re told our natural revulsion is an attack on poor Mary’s personal character. We’re told that this a safe space for both trans and cis women to come together and share their deepest innermost feelings. Unless those innermost feelings include thoughts about men fucking and impregnating women, then demanding to be acknowledged as a woman who’s just like one of the girls.
And guess who it is feeding us the privilege garbage? It’s not Mary. Mary’s probably sitting at home with a hard on from the pretty young girl catfight he’s managed to cause. No, it’s other women. Y’see the patriarchy has pulled a pretty awesome trick. It’s managed to convince hordes and hordes of young (and not-so-young) women that their oppressors are their friends. Not just their friends but their girlfriends. Gal pals. One of us!
Look, he wears women’s clothes and says he’s a woman! Of course he must be a woman. Only a fool would say they’re a woman if they’re not!
I remember the face of every man who’s ever fucked me. (Hi guys if you’re reading!) If any one of those men came up to me, completely seriously, and told me he was a woman now and demanded I refer to him as she, I would probably be too stunned to even say anything. You’re a man and you’ve put your dick inside me and you want me to say you’re a woman? Hell fucking no. And then at some point you realize that all of these heterosexual males who claim to be women are some other woman’s ex boyfriend, or ex husband, or worse – father of her children. And we are doing every single one of these women a disservice when we refer to men as ‘she’ and accept them into our women-only communities.
These are men. They are not women. I refuse to call them women and I implore other feminist-minded women to consider the invisible women harmed by transgender males. I defy any of you to look me in the eye and tell me you’d accept a man who fucked you as a woman. What about a man who raped you?
These are men. They are gross, creepy, sexually disturbed, autogynephilic men.